Oct 302010

Many might not know this,but I was not born with two ears…just one. Why am I telling you this? Because being born with one ear profoundly changed the way I view the world and everything around me. As a kid growing up on the island (Long Island, that is) in New York, I had to undergo multiple hospital stays to rebuild my right ear so it could look like a real ear.

The surgeries started when I was 6 years young all the way till I was 23. There were 7 or 8 in all, although I lose count (not something I care to remember). At times I felt like I was Frankenstein, cut up and stitched in all different places! They call it plastic surgery but I can assure you there was no plastic used rebuilding my right ear.

Most times I shared my hospital room with 3 other kids and each and every time I made a new friend. I learned quickly that having one ear wasn’t bad at all! Most of my hospital friends where quadriplegics, Cancer patients or kids with cleft pallets. This truly prepared me for a life with my new right ear. I guess you can say my one ear prepared me for two, and my two ears prepared me for a life of listening to others.

I have found in my lifetime many people will hear you, but not listen to you. Most people are so busy that they may pretend to listen to you when in actuality, they let all the other noise around them drown out what they should be hearing as they’re listening!

Every business that I have been a part of has been built on the foundation of really understanding where the other person is coming from. The Wealth Building Annex is no exception – our mastermind process is all about listening twice as much as you talk!

Lesson: Listen to the words people use when they are talking and formulate your answer only after you have processed what you have heard!

Guest Post By: Chris Krimitsos, Guardian of The Wealth Building Annex


  14 Responses to “How one ear prepared me for two!”

  1. Excellent post on Communication.

    I agree that listening is key to effective communication. People do not know how to do that these days. They are too busy waiting to get their say in and do not actually take the time to really listen to what you have to say.

    Thanks for sharing this with us.

    Make it a great day!
    God Bless,

  2. Joe

    I really liked this post indeed, It was well thought out and written. I guess with your story when you really think about it; just having a ear problem while everyone else had a more severe case made your problem go from big to little from all the other kids. Its sad sometimes that you have to be with other people that have some sort of disability to be excepted and not be looked upon as being different. Everyone has a story to tell and some flaws that they rather not share if they can hide it. It’s funny that I read this story cause I just recently met someone that has a speech problem due to having some dead nerves in her face, which effects her tongue and mouth. Everyday I live and everyday I learn something new which teaches me valuable lessons and although I’m far perfect I try and respect the next person as well to make their life a bit easier since we only have 1 of those.

    Steven Dean

  3. Thanks Ed. Chris is a good friend of mine and to see and hear about stuff he had to go through puts it into perspective of how grateful we should be for not having to deal with crap like that.

    It has made him who he is today and his success is spectacular to see.

    Have a great day!


  4. Thanks for the contribution Steven!

    I think it really brings it back to me as I hang out with Chris that I have never had to deal with problems like this, so there is no excuse that anything should hold me back.

    Everything we allow into our consciousness that tell us “we can’t for what ever reason is BS and all self imposed. Immigrant, people with disabilities, and physical problems, the people who can theoretically justify to themselves why they cant do something more often the ones to push through it and kick some butt in life.

    Thanks for sharing!


  5. Joe, loved that you interviewed Chris–YOU ARE BOTH AWESOME!!! and by the way another thing that teaches people to listen is MUSIC MAKING!

  6. That is such a poignant blog post i’ve ever read today. Listening and sometimes being at peace is a good way of opening your eyes wide open to life’s many reality.

  7. That’s a great story Joe. As you said seeing people a lot worse off than you made you feel very OK with yourself. I have learned as you have, apparently very early in life for you, that you must first listen to find out what others are looking for and you may or may not have a match for them.

    Thanks for the very personal share,


  8. Thanks for sharing!

  9. Thanks Michael, Chris had lots of interesting lessons throughout life. I appreciate the comment.

  10. Joe,

    What an interesting story….I love the way you refused to see yourself as a victim but instead learned gratitude by being exposed to so many that were far less fortunate than you. This is one of the true secrets to having a successful, happy life.

    Listening is absolutely one of the skills that most people today need to improve. Often times we can become so involved in what we want to say that we never use our brains to actually hear what the other person is saying. Great lesson here….thanks!

  11. We have 2 ears and one mouth for a reason! Thanks for sharing.

    Have a great day Kathy!


  12. I was just talking to someone on the phone about how listening to peoples conversation is important. They will tell you where they stand or need from you in order to get their business. Joe, I’m working on become more of a listener sometimes it’s hard but allowing people to express themselves makes our life easy to answer their questions. Thanks for sharing your article post with us.

  13. Thanks for sharing Charles! Sometimes it is tough to let people speak, especially when they are obviously doing something incorrect. As we grow and show that restraint it enable us to better solve their issues. Great comment.

    Have a great day!


  14. What a great article! I couldn’t agree with you more about listening. Thank you for sharing.

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