Feb 082009
 

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Today I would like to create a little dialog between myself and all of you out there in internet land.

I appreciate your support and feedback on previous articles and that is why I would like to ask for your opinion and assistance.

Where it is that you find personal happiness in life?

When you know your goal, and see yourself making a positive difference in the lives of others what kind of self evaluation have you found to be useful in identifying your happiness?

Quick overview of the reasoning for this post: I am a 24 year old entrepreneur. No girlfriend, wife, kids, or other immediate responsibilities other than routine bills. Business has been absolutely wonderful, especially over the past 5 months. Health is constantly improving both mentally and physically. Road block is I have been finding it difficult to find joy in other areas outside my work and fitness routine.

No one is responsible for our happiness but us.
We are the only ones in control of moods and emotions, however, we tend to give others the power to have influence over us every so often. This is why we must choose our associations carefully. Sometimes the result is limiting time spent with people who are not positively enriching our lives. When we  begin this transition it may feel like we are abandoning some friends and sometimes even loved ones, but the road to success is the road less traveled. This has been personally tried and tested by myself and many, many others and based on experience and the testimonials I have heard the reward significantly outweighs the price paid.

My questions lies here: When sacrifices have been made, and personal success is beginning to come about faster and faster, but it just feels like there is something missing in life, what have been any successful actions or ideas you have had to bring that happiness and joy into your life?

If you can relate to this in any way and have insight, testimonials, book recommendations please do leave a comment.

I appreciate your time and your input. May you have an absolutely spectacular week!

  22 Responses to “Identifying Happiness in Life”

  1. This is from neglecting the Needs of the Spirit in my opinion.

    True, happiness comes from with in however being spiritually fulfilled comes from being connected to the divine and being aware of this relationship.

    My suggestion is not to neglect your spirit and that sustenance comes from your acknowledgment of your oneness with divinity and that awareness comes from the bible & associating with those who get it.

    That’s the book I’ve been reading and would suggest 🙂

  2. This is from neglecting the Needs of the Spirit in my opinion.

    True, happiness comes from with in however being spiritually fulfilled comes from being connected to the divine and being aware of this relationship.

    My suggestion is not to neglect your spirit and that sustenance comes from your acknowledgment of your oneness with divinity and that awareness comes from the bible & associating with those who get it.

    That’s the book I’ve been reading and would suggest 🙂

  3. From 1st impression, it seems as if your marker to success seems very much a material and physical body standpoint, not unusual, many of us start there & think that is the goal , that will make me happy and get everything we want, (I was once a Senior Buyer for a large blue chip), I then was like, oh what did I want that for!

    Happiness as they say is not a destination but a state of mind. I think may be some work on the inner self and spirit might be whats missing from your dynamic. Its as if you are trying to fill a void from outside yourself. May be strive for success from a different angle: Are you able to show your love and kindness to someone else and Im not talking romantic here. Can you give of yourself to something else every now and again that isn’t work related? Have you tried Yoga/meditation? Do you cook? Do you ever fully give yourself time to switch off your mind apart from when sleeping? Im not saying any of this will be your thing, but a passion for something that doesn’t feel like a trudge, fills you with energy & makes you feel lighter is the key.

    This is something I constantly make myself more mindful of when in a fix about not being in big business land anymore or not being able to buy the latest bag/shoes/clothes or not able to be with others socially as Im home alone with my 2yr old or my poorly 5yr old.

    A little technique I once used successfully (after acknowledging the negative/more challenging bits 1st & allowing it, as you have done here with this post in a way), was to write a daily I am grateful for list. It worked wonders and is such a simple tool to help aid changing stance. Actually I think I need to start doing mine again!

  4. From 1st impression, it seems as if your marker to success seems very much a material and physical body standpoint, not unusual, many of us start there & think that is the goal , that will make me happy and get everything we want, (I was once a Senior Buyer for a large blue chip), I then was like, oh what did I want that for!

    Happiness as they say is not a destination but a state of mind. I think may be some work on the inner self and spirit might be whats missing from your dynamic. Its as if you are trying to fill a void from outside yourself. May be strive for success from a different angle: Are you able to show your love and kindness to someone else and Im not talking romantic here. Can you give of yourself to something else every now and again that isn’t work related? Have you tried Yoga/meditation? Do you cook? Do you ever fully give yourself time to switch off your mind apart from when sleeping? Im not saying any of this will be your thing, but a passion for something that doesn’t feel like a trudge, fills you with energy & makes you feel lighter is the key.

    This is something I constantly make myself more mindful of when in a fix about not being in big business land anymore or not being able to buy the latest bag/shoes/clothes or not able to be with others socially as Im home alone with my 2yr old or my poorly 5yr old.

    A little technique I once used successfully (after acknowledging the negative/more challenging bits 1st & allowing it, as you have done here with this post in a way), was to write a daily I am grateful for list. It worked wonders and is such a simple tool to help aid changing stance. Actually I think I need to start doing mine again!

  5. Hi Joe,

    I will be 29 this year and we have traveled a similar road. I moved away from home a couple of years ago and have met with a lot of success. Yet, I have some unhappiness in my life because I do not have a significant other in my life and I do miss hanging out with my family at times.
    I plan on moving back eventually, but my only advice for your current situation would be to reconnect with people in your life and learn to find and make new friends. People matter more and more as you age, and they are ALL that matters when you are on your death bed. Hope this helps!

    Cheers,
    Jeremy

  6. Hi Joe,

    I will be 29 this year and we have traveled a similar road. I moved away from home a couple of years ago and have met with a lot of success. Yet, I have some unhappiness in my life because I do not have a significant other in my life and I do miss hanging out with my family at times.
    I plan on moving back eventually, but my only advice for your current situation would be to reconnect with people in your life and learn to find and make new friends. People matter more and more as you age, and they are ALL that matters when you are on your death bed. Hope this helps!

    Cheers,
    Jeremy

  7. Thanks a lot Tony, I appreciate you and all the time and insight you continually provide into my life. I need to get my mind back in order. Thanks again and have a great day!

  8. Thanks a lot Tony, I appreciate you and all the time and insight you continually provide into my life. I need to get my mind back in order. Thanks again and have a great day!

  9. Hana,

    Thank you so much for your time, I appreciate your ideas. I am going to make the effort to take the time and write down what I am grateful for again. I have done it in the past and for some reason I faded off the stuff that works. Thank you so much, it is an absolute pleasure and blessing to have people like yourself to bounce some ideas off of. Thanks again, have a spectacular day!!

  10. Hana,

    Thank you so much for your time, I appreciate your ideas. I am going to make the effort to take the time and write down what I am grateful for again. I have done it in the past and for some reason I faded off the stuff that works. Thank you so much, it is an absolute pleasure and blessing to have people like yourself to bounce some ideas off of. Thanks again, have a spectacular day!!

  11. Very appreciated Jeremy, thank you for your input. I value the relationships I have and am always trying to expand into new ones as well, the one obstacle I face, which I am sure you are familiar with, is finding those like minded people to grow with. Driven, focused, young professionals are certainly hard to come by. I wish you the best in your venture and value your ideas, thank your for taking a few minutes to share your insight.

  12. Very appreciated Jeremy, thank you for your input. I value the relationships I have and am always trying to expand into new ones as well, the one obstacle I face, which I am sure you are familiar with, is finding those like minded people to grow with. Driven, focused, young professionals are certainly hard to come by. I wish you the best in your venture and value your ideas, thank your for taking a few minutes to share your insight.

  13. Hi Joe! It seems to me that you are well on your way to achieving happiness. The fact that you are reaching out to others for advice shows me that you do value relationships, which comes from the wisdom within your spirit that we are one and need to co-exist with eachother in order to fullfill our purposes. It looks like you are on a path to becoming more enlightened everyday which will bring about the happiness you seek. Like the others comments, happiness does come from within, which you know, but yes, we do sometimes feel we may be lacking something sometimes for one reason or another because we are all growth seeking beings and are here to learn that we are everything good that we seek. We would not be on this earth if we were not working on fully understanding this.

    You mentioned that you are going through a transformation and in the process understanding that this sometimes requires us to not spend time with certain people who are not creating positively. This doesn’t mean that we can not be around people who are negative, but only to be conscious of the way we are responding to the actions or words. We can choose how we react,as you have said. But it is wise not to get intricately involoved emotionally with someone who is of a lower vibration then you. During this process, of realization really, it is easy to feel that you might be lonely in the world because you are still in the process of releasing these ties with the people you are working on seperating yourself from. The only reason that you are feeling that there is an obsticle in finding like minded people to grow with who are driven, focused, young professionals, is that you are still in the process of working on knowing what you really want. The laws of attraction will bring unto you what you put forth into the universe. I am sure that you are meeting people very much like yourself, but perhaps arent recognizing it. I think that as you are continuing to grow, and it sounds like you are going through some wonderful growth right now, a great cleansing of thought and view of the world, you will find new ways of expressing yourself, this new sort of self realization, and will quickly attract what you are looking for and will recognize it when it comes to you.

    For now, I would suggest to just continue on this path. Continue to follow your spirit through this cleansing, and know that by releasing the old you will attract the new. Love yourself and try not to doubt this new you. The more you learn to love yourself, the more you can love others and recognize the love that is coming to you from others. Be open minded to the new people who come into your path. They may not fit exactly the mold you have in mind, but the quality of thought it what is important now. Trust your inner feelings. If something you are doing, saying, or listening to brings about a negative feeling or any kind, re evaluate your place in that setting and make the change nessasary to turn the feeling positive, whether it’s stopping the action, deciding not to listen to what you were listening to, changing the conversation or walking away from it, or possibly changing the way you are viewing what is happening. If the actions you are paricipating in, or what you are hearing or saying brings a positive feeling, then you will be continuing to attract more of these positive interactions, which will be contributing more and more to your ‘happiness’.

    Lots of love and blessings for you! Keep up the good work. Your life is a wonderful journey!

    Leah

  14. Hi Joe! It seems to me that you are well on your way to achieving happiness. The fact that you are reaching out to others for advice shows me that you do value relationships, which comes from the wisdom within your spirit that we are one and need to co-exist with eachother in order to fullfill our purposes. It looks like you are on a path to becoming more enlightened everyday which will bring about the happiness you seek. Like the others comments, happiness does come from within, which you know, but yes, we do sometimes feel we may be lacking something sometimes for one reason or another because we are all growth seeking beings and are here to learn that we are everything good that we seek. We would not be on this earth if we were not working on fully understanding this.

    You mentioned that you are going through a transformation and in the process understanding that this sometimes requires us to not spend time with certain people who are not creating positively. This doesn’t mean that we can not be around people who are negative, but only to be conscious of the way we are responding to the actions or words. We can choose how we react,as you have said. But it is wise not to get intricately involoved emotionally with someone who is of a lower vibration then you. During this process, of realization really, it is easy to feel that you might be lonely in the world because you are still in the process of releasing these ties with the people you are working on seperating yourself from. The only reason that you are feeling that there is an obsticle in finding like minded people to grow with who are driven, focused, young professionals, is that you are still in the process of working on knowing what you really want. The laws of attraction will bring unto you what you put forth into the universe. I am sure that you are meeting people very much like yourself, but perhaps arent recognizing it. I think that as you are continuing to grow, and it sounds like you are going through some wonderful growth right now, a great cleansing of thought and view of the world, you will find new ways of expressing yourself, this new sort of self realization, and will quickly attract what you are looking for and will recognize it when it comes to you.

    For now, I would suggest to just continue on this path. Continue to follow your spirit through this cleansing, and know that by releasing the old you will attract the new. Love yourself and try not to doubt this new you. The more you learn to love yourself, the more you can love others and recognize the love that is coming to you from others. Be open minded to the new people who come into your path. They may not fit exactly the mold you have in mind, but the quality of thought it what is important now. Trust your inner feelings. If something you are doing, saying, or listening to brings about a negative feeling or any kind, re evaluate your place in that setting and make the change nessasary to turn the feeling positive, whether it’s stopping the action, deciding not to listen to what you were listening to, changing the conversation or walking away from it, or possibly changing the way you are viewing what is happening. If the actions you are paricipating in, or what you are hearing or saying brings a positive feeling, then you will be continuing to attract more of these positive interactions, which will be contributing more and more to your ‘happiness’.

    Lots of love and blessings for you! Keep up the good work. Your life is a wonderful journey!

    Leah

  15. Leah,

    Wow, right on time to what I needed to hear this morning. I have been noticing a difference in the way I interpret situation recently because my thought process had made a shift to feeling stagnant. Your comments really helped me identify some necessary shifts that must be made. Thank you so very much for your thoughts. If there is anything I can do to be a benefit in your life please dont hesitate to ask. Good luck and have a wonderful day!!

    Joe

  16. Leah,

    Wow, right on time to what I needed to hear this morning. I have been noticing a difference in the way I interpret situation recently because my thought process had made a shift to feeling stagnant. Your comments really helped me identify some necessary shifts that must be made. Thank you so very much for your thoughts. If there is anything I can do to be a benefit in your life please dont hesitate to ask. Good luck and have a wonderful day!!

    Joe

  17. Hi Joe,
    I have read all the posts and agree that strengthening your connection to Spirit, God, Creator( whatever word works for you) is extremely important.When you are tossed around by life’s experiences you will be like the eye of the storm. You have received some great insights. A book I recommend to you is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
    In this powerful book that has remained on The New York Times Bestseller List for over eight years, don Miguel reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When we are ready to change these agreements, there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles. The Four Agreements® offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
    The four agreements are
    Be impeccable with your word
    Don’t take anything personally
    Don’t make assumptions
    Always do YOUR best
    I would also add that is is important for all of us to stand in our power and one of the ways to do that is by speaking in the first person and owning our experiences. I always feel a dis-connect when others are using “you” instead of I.
    I wrote a blog on this subject http://www.dianallen.com
    Let me know if this info is of assistance.
    The more people on the path the better.The tipping point is 11%

    Diana

  18. Hi Joe,
    I have read all the posts and agree that strengthening your connection to Spirit, God, Creator( whatever word works for you) is extremely important.When you are tossed around by life’s experiences you will be like the eye of the storm. You have received some great insights. A book I recommend to you is The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
    In this powerful book that has remained on The New York Times Bestseller List for over eight years, don Miguel reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. When we are ready to change these agreements, there are four deceptively simple, yet powerful agreements that we can adopt as guiding principles. The Four Agreements® offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
    The four agreements are
    Be impeccable with your word
    Don’t take anything personally
    Don’t make assumptions
    Always do YOUR best
    I would also add that is is important for all of us to stand in our power and one of the ways to do that is by speaking in the first person and owning our experiences. I always feel a dis-connect when others are using “you” instead of I.
    I wrote a blog on this subject http://www.dianallen.com
    Let me know if this info is of assistance.
    The more people on the path the better.The tipping point is 11%

    Diana

  19. Thank you Diana! I will be picking up the book on my way to my next appointment. I am looking forward to applying these principals immediately and cant wait to check out your blog and see what other valuable nuggets I can get. Thanks so much. Have a spectacular day!!

  20. Thank you Diana! I will be picking up the book on my way to my next appointment. I am looking forward to applying these principals immediately and cant wait to check out your blog and see what other valuable nuggets I can get. Thanks so much. Have a spectacular day!!

  21. I have to 2nd that book suggestion! The Voice of Knowledge, Mastery of Love and Beyond Fear all by Don are amazing works that are a must for those looking to expand their awareness.

    Now if you’ll pardon me I must revisit them myself lol.

    Keep touching peoples lives Joe but never forget that it’s it’s the love for the divinity which is reflected in the love you have for you.

    If you ever feel you like looking outside of yourself for sustenance look no further than to your connection to divinity.

    Besides you’re one kick ass dude! 🙂

  22. I have to 2nd that book suggestion! The Voice of Knowledge, Mastery of Love and Beyond Fear all by Don are amazing works that are a must for those looking to expand their awareness.

    Now if you’ll pardon me I must revisit them myself lol.

    Keep touching peoples lives Joe but never forget that it’s it’s the love for the divinity which is reflected in the love you have for you.

    If you ever feel you like looking outside of yourself for sustenance look no further than to your connection to divinity.

    Besides you’re one kick ass dude! 🙂

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